Discard Personality Lease Gratuit

hi everyone its dr. Romani thanks again for tuning in to this series which is sort of a handbook of all the terminology you need to make sense of narcissistic relationships and narcissistic abuse today's video is going to take on two common narcissistic dynamics devaluing and discarding before we go on to that please do click on the bell if you want to subscribe to this channel you'll get daily updates when new episodes of this series come out as well as all of the other content that comes out on this channel so let's take on this issue of devaluing and discarding the classical narcissistic fairytale starts with idealization and then moves on to devaluation and then discarding everyone thinks it won't happen to them and yet without exception the story goes down the same way every time to feel thrown away by another person is an awful experience but yet it is sort of a universal part of the narcissistic relationship so let's start by taking a look at the narcissistic relationship cycle in most cases not all not all by any means but many of most the idealization often takes the form of love bombing which is another video in this series so love bombing or idealization lasts just long enough to get you stuck in this relationship dynamic just when you exhale and believe in the fairy tale then BAM that's when the devaluation phase starts devaluation can start slow its when the little criticisms begin when you start experiencing the contempt when the gifts and the big it's out go away when the narcissus phone becomes much more interesting than you sitting in front of them and when the sideways comments like I don't know like are you really gonna wear that and other comments of that ilk start to creep into the relationship it can be a real time of intense confusion in a relationship because you can't figure out when the love bombing ended and when the contempt began all you know is it's though the weather changed it went from being very warm to very cold kind of quickly the devaluing phase tends to happen just as you start to feel more settled into the relationship as a real relationship you may have actually been resisting the relationship for a while and you might have even had been savvy enough to think oh this love bombing is a little bit too good to be true I'm not gonna be played and then just when you settled in when you felt like it was a real and whole relationship that is when the devaluation begins the reason for this sort of shift it's a bit nuanced but it largely happens because at the deepest deep a narcissist self-loathing is actually so deep and so unprocessed that just as someone does see the good in them it's as though it activates their self contempt which they then project onto you and then voila devaluation it's as though they project their devaluation of themselves onto you now devaluation can last for months years and even decades it becomes before you know it sort of a new normal your life tends to be punctuated by insults and by...